Why all this now? I got home from Uni today and found a message on the answering machine to David from my Mother. It was his birthday today and the message said something like "Hi David, Happy Birthday. I hope you liked the present that I bought you. Bye." Firstly, I paid for half that present! Secondly, half of her half came from my Father (who was not mentioned in the message) and thirdly, where is the "I Love You" or "I'm proud of you" or "I know your Dad is thinking of you" ... all she cares about and mentions is the expensive present.
When I had to take David to Wayne's funeral, I borrowed money off a friend for petrol. She found out and berated me, saying that I shouldn't have done that and told me that if I needed money I should always ask her rather than impact on others. So I rang her today to help me pay for my semester parking ($200) and she gave me this big lecture about how I can't afford to have a car and I should start paying her up front for the rego and insurance due in April! She also said that I shouldn't be buying David birthday presents if I can't afford necessities like parking!
I don't have a problem with getting the lecture or being told that I need to be more aware of financial responsibilities but it's the consistency that annoys frustrates me! I wish she wouldn't say "ask me for money" in one breath and "don't take me for granted" in the next breath.
The main reason for getting my degree is so that I don't have to be financially dependent on her anymore. Another two years and I will be able choose my interaction with my Mother based on a desire to spend time with her rather than maintaining a rocky foundation because I need her. I'm guessing I won't see much of her my first year out.
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