2003-12-02 - 2:33 p.m.
"First, I am not advocating being single, but I am saying that diversity in relationships is no bad thing.
Secondly, two out of three marriages are failing, I would argue, because we place an unrealistic emphasis on the transformative power of love.
We've become smitten with the idea that having a partner somehow makes you a more acceptable human being, ensures happiness, solves difficulties, absolves you from a duty to look after yourself.
Romance has become quite the opiate of our times. Fairytale romance which doesn't require effort or sacrifice or disappointment. Most people want to buy into that kind of magic.
So they panic and persuade themselves they've fallen in love when they haven't at all. Or they move into a relationship and accept behaviour which they otherwise wouldn't tolerate. Isn't it perhaps time that some of us said 'Enough?'"
-- Yvonne Roberts in 'The Trouble With Single Women'