As most of you know, my son is autistic. I don't really notice it that much, or maybe I have just adjusted to it and without a second child for comparison life is just what it is and we make best.
This morning I was asleep when he came in with a watch and a pencil and asked if he could make a phone call. He rang the automated time service and sat on the floor using the pencil trying to set his digital watch to the right time. I offered to help, set the time and expected praise/adulation/worship. This was not forthcoming because it wasn't the EXACT time. Now people, it was 3 seconds out. Yes... not three minutes, 3 seconds out. He wasn't rude to me, but he sure was upset and really frustrated that it wasn't the EXACT time according the man on the auto-time line. Can I also add that to call the time costs me 50c and it only repeats it three times so he had actually called the time line about 6 times!
I don't understand why a three second difference is important. I don't understand how he can worry about something that was said a week ago. I don't understand why he needs to know every single detail. I don't understand why he can't resist finishing an entire Simpsons quote when the moment has passed.
I've been told that having autism is like listening to a radio which is on static. I try to remember that whenever I get frustrated with him - I can't imagine how difficult and uncomfortable life would be with that kind of permanent interference and a necessity to fight through the 'static' in order to communicate. It's really no surprise that they spend time in their own world where the static can be avoided.
Sure, it's not terminal, he doesn't need medication and he can walk but fuck life would be easier if...
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